What’s the best way to ask for a divorce?
Even if you are 100 percent sure that you need a divorce in order to move on with the life you want, there is nothing simple about approaching this subject with your spouse.
Fortunately, when you have an idea of what you want to say, it is easier to get your point across and move past this difficult conversation. Here is what you should do:
- Map out the conversation: There is no way of knowing exactly how things will unfold, but you should map out what you want to say and how you want to say it.
- Be upfront: Do not hide your feelings or attempt to dance around the issue. Be upfront and clear about your concerns and intentions. You do not want to give your spouse the wrong idea, so stick with the facts.
- Hear them out: You owe it to your spouse to hear them out, so let them talk for as long as they need.
- Do not turn back: Your spouse may make a compelling case for staying together, but if you are sure you want to divorce it is not a good idea to backtrack. You have put a lot of time into making this decision, so stick with it.
Asking for a divorce may be one of the most difficult conversations you ever have. Not only does it mean big changes for you, but it’ll also impact your spouse and children (if you have any together).
Once you ask for a divorce, you can focus on the process itself, your legal rights and everything you can do to position yourself for a better life in the future.