How to discuss divorce with your children
It’s not the ideal situation, but you may come to the conclusion that divorce is the only way to regain control of your life.
While it’s sure to impact you in many ways, from your emotional well-being to your finances, it’ll have just as much impact on your children. And that’s why you need to take special care of them during this difficult time.
Here are some tips for talking to your children about divorce:
- Stick to the facts: Now’s not the time to hide the truth in an attempt to save their feelings. This doesn’t mean you have to get into the finer details of your divorce, but you should provide the basic facts. Obviously, what you can (or should) share depends on the age of your children.
- Sit down with your soon to be ex-spouse: If possible, talk to your children about your divorce alongside their other parent. This goes a long way in showing that you’re still united on your quest to provide them with stability.
- Be open to answering questions: Your children will have a variety of questions about your divorce. Where will I live? How much time will I get to spend with you? Do I have to change schools? Even if you don’t have a good answer lined up, don’t sidestep the question. Provide as much information as possible.
There’s nothing simple about talking to your children about divorce, but if you go down this path you need to involve them. Once you feel better about the well-being of your children, it’s easier to turn your full attention to the divorce process and protecting your legal rights.